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Working Mom of Two

I still cannot it has been 3.5 months since I ventured back into working. It feels like weeks, not months. I found going back this time very different than after Avery. After Avery, it was a world of unknowns, a scary one at that but as the days passed we fell into a new groove and life that we all enjoyed a lot. After Chloe I knew what to expect going back to work and it made the whole transition so much easier. But with working full time, being a Mom, a Wife, this blog, running & training for races plus everything else that falls my way there has to be some sacrifices too.

By nature, I am a type A person so letting things “fall to the wayside” is much easier said that done. Those dishes in the sink? Yeah, they do not need to be done, but for my sanity, they actually do and probably right now so the whole letting those little things go in order for me to still have time for my family is hard some days. But with a little work, a whole lot of planning and an awesome side-kick it is all very possible.

So what have I learned in this past few months?

1 – I cannot plan enough. True story. Meal planning, workouts, my lunch hours, grocery shopping…and more. I find planning these things and times to do these things helps us get it all done.

2- I have an awesome husband. I knew this already but without Chad I could not do what I do.

3 – Some days I am too busy to even notice “those dishes in the sink” or whatever might have driven me crazy before. This helps me to let those little things slide 😉

4 – Two kids is not twice the work. More like 100x – HA. But I would not change it for the world.

5- Flexibility is key – all the time. Kids get sick, they nap at the wrong hour, they get cranky, life gets busy and so on. I am such a planner that sometimes these last minute changes can really get to me but I am learning to roll with it more as life rarely goes as planned.

6 – Downtime is so important. I try and reserve the last hour of the night to just hang out with Chad, no blogging, no working out, just hanging out which these days means watching TV 😉 Hopefully this summer it means sitting outside with a cold drink 😉

7 – I am tired… a lot. But that is life right now so I do not dwell on it.

8 – It really does take a village. From my job being flexible, our great dayhome, family and friends. I could not do it without everyone.

I am the first to admit that our days are usually crazy and hectic but I also love them 98% of the time and would not change it for anything. After all, these two little faces make everything worth it:

 

Lindsey

Back to Work Transition

I feel like now that I have gone back to work twice I am a pro at this transition, well as “pro” as you can get with a big change like this! So I thought I would share some of my tips to get you through the transition and still have a semi-sane life 😉

1- Meal Plan. You guys knew this one was coming 😉 I get home by 5pm with the girls so there is really not a lot of time to think about what to make for supper and forget about 5pm grocery store stops! This way I can walk in the door and start supper.

2- Prepare the night before. I spend about 20 minutes in the evenings getting ready for the next day. This involved packing lunches, the dayhome bags, laying out outfits and anything else we need for the next day. This goes a long way in the morning when time is tight and things often go sideways (thank you, three year olds!).

3- Lower your expectations. Days are busy and sometimes things have to go on the backburner for a bit. But you will get into a new routine and everything will fall into place.  For me this means that my house is less tidy than I would like it, but in the grand scheme of things this is peanuts so I just let it be.

4- Schedule in your workouts. *If* you workout. I do a combination of early morning (5am), after the girls are in bed (7:30pm) and lunch time yoga classes. This is key for me to stay accountable and get my workouts done.

5- Use your lunch breaks. My lunch breaks rarely involve lunch! They are used for errands, grocery store trips, yoga class and appointments. But this frees up my evenings and weekends so I make it work. Granted, I have a flexible job and can eat lunch at my desk while working.

6- Set a cleaning schedule. I find this the easiest way to make sure things around the house do not get too away on us. This will look different for everyone but make sure you set aside time to do these things. Example, we do our cleaning Sunday after we workout (during naps) and laundry is started Friday night and all done by Sunday night so we are not fitting that in during our already busy week.

7- Have a visible family calendar. Ours is just a monthly printed one that is on the fridge but it allows us to see what we have going on and when so we do not double book and are aware of each other’s schedules.

And if all else fails, after a long day sit back and have a glass of wine and let everything “go” for the day and you will feel a lot better 😉

Lindsey

4 More Months

Until what? Four months tomorrow and I am back to work full-time.

I made the decision shortly after we found out I was pregnant not to take my full maternity leave for a few reasons. I am sure many people though I might regret the decision or change my mind but I have not. I have been at home for 5 months so over half way done my maternity leave and still know this is by far the right choice for us.

I wanted to talk about this since I think that sometimes society pressures Moms into feeling that they should want to stay home full-time and if you do not feel that way there is something a matter with you. This is only my observation, I do not feel as if it is the truth. Being a working Mom or stay at home Mom are equally awesome and have their own perks but when it comes down to it all that matters is that you are doing what is right for you and makes YOU happy.

I love being at home with the girls and feel so fortunate to be able to do so. So many people do not have the benefit of doing this so the fact that I get to makes me feel very blessed. We have had an awesome summer off and seeing summer come to an end is bittersweet since I do not know if I will ever have a summer off work again with the girls.

Saying that there are some reasons why I know I am going to be more than ready to go back come January.

1- I miss adult time. Yes, I see Chad every evening and morning but for 8 hours of the day I am with a toddler and a baby 80% of the time. I miss my co-workers, and our conversations.  I miss talking about things other than parenting on a daily basis. I am lucky that many of my co-workers are my friends as well and seeing them every couple of weeks just does not cut it.

2 – I function better with away time from my kids. Yup, it is true. Being a Mommy 24/7 is exhausting – stay at home Moms you amaze me! By 5pm some days I want to run out the door for even a few minutes. When I am working for 8 hours a day there is nothing better than doing the opposite and running out the door but to see my girls instead.

3- Eating my lunch in peace. I know this is pretty low on my list but eating a meal without the girls some days seems like a dream. No toddler telling me what she does and does not want – which changes every second, no baby grunting at me for more food…sigh… 😉 I joke I have become the worlds fastest eater with two kids, it is like I kick into survival mode! And lunches out with no kids?! I cannot wait.

4 – I am ready to have my brain in work mode again. I totally have a mushy Mom brain these days and who can blame me! I am ready to think of work things and be more connected to what is going on. I try to stay somewhat connected while off but it is not my priority these days, the girls are.

5 – I want more money. HA. Doesn’t everyone? I told myself this could not be a deciding factor in staying home since we could afford a full leave. But when it came down to it I did not want to. I wanted to take a winter holiday, start looking at a new vehicle and well, shop. Taking home a third of what you are used to is not fun no matter what. With dayhome fees it only makes sense to work full-time as part-time is not worth it (for me).

I cannot stress this enough that these choices are only mine and I never judge anyone as to what they do. It is so sad that society does judge Moms on their choices but that is life. I love my girls to death and am so grateful to be home with them but just the thought going back to work in January makes me so happy.

I have to share one final and very important thing in my decision. My dayhome. I am so lucky have such a wonderful provider (hi Michelle if you are reading!) who I have known for many years. She is so caring and loving I know my girls are in even better hands there than with me –> truth. She is taking both girls back in January which I am beyond grateful for since Chloe will only be 9 months. Avery still asks a few times a week to go back there with her friends so I know she will be very happy to go back and Chloe will be just fine with her sister and Michelle. Moms – this is key, I think having a great dayhome makes going to work every day much easier.

Lindsey

Choosing to be a Working Mom

I almost was going to include this as part of a weekly pregnancy update post but decided to talk about it on its own. Here I go…

Like most Moms I struggled with the idea of leaving my baby at dayhome 40+ hours a week and returning back to work full-time. I went through many phases in my year off, some days I was like “I cannot wait to be back at work” other days the thought made me want to cry. But then I found an amazing dayhome and I went back to work full-time. It did not take long for us to realize this was the right decision for our family. We were all happier.

Avery loved going to dayhome and I think to date she has maybe cried twice at drop offs, typically she got upset when we picked her up…She loved being with other kids daily and getting to do fun things all day long. Not to mention the love she has for her dayhome family is just amazing.

Me? Well like just like Avery I excelled at being a working Mom. Not to brag but I think I do pretty darn good and it has never overwhelmed me once. I know this decision is best for us and I have zero guilt working full time. I prefer being around my peers just like Avery does and love my work family. I admit that my job and work is what helps makes this so easy on us. If Avery is sick? No problem, I go and get her. I have one a couple occasions brought her back to my office to work more! Again not an issue. It has been a huge blessing.

When we found out we were pregnant with baby #2 I told Chad I did not think taking a full year off was in the cards for me. With his support I talked to my boss who was probably pleased to hear this as well. While there is still a lot my in the air around this right now the plan is for me to take the reminder of 2016 off and be back full-time January 2017. This gives me 9 months at home with my babies (last day of work is March 31st) and I get to enjoy the summer off with them.

Just the thought of being at home from January-March with a 3 year old and almost one year old terrified me, I mean I maybe stayed at home for 2 days on maternity leave with Avery. I get stir crazy way too easy.

Our plan was also to keep Avery in part-time care once baby #2 came but with us buying a new home, keeping our current home as a rental the extra $500 a month is just not there. This was also a factor in our decision. If I could’ve kept Avery in part-time care I might have taken the full year. I know the transition will be hard on Avery no matter what, but she is such a social kid I worry how much she will miss dayhome. Heck after a long weekend she is asking to go back to dayhome!!

The main thing here is not justifying my decision but rather sharing our plans and to say that everyone and every situation is different so what matters is doing what is best for you and your family. I have no idea how it will be to work full-time with two kids but hoping it goes as good as it went with one!

Lindsey

Five (Awesome) Truths About Being a Working Mom

When it comes to working full time and being a Mom not every day is easy but for the most part once you fall into a routine it just becomes second nature and I would never say that it is extremely hard. Keeping in mind I have an awesome husband that helps a ton with everything, not to mention a fairly easy and happy little girl. Because I have yet to ever regret returning to work full time I wanted to talk more about why I feel this way.

5 Awesome Truths About Being a Working Mom

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1 – HOT Coffee. Ten times a day if I want 😉 Without tiny hands trying to grab it from you.

And quiet adult conversation while during said coffee each morning.

2 – “Nails done, hair done, everything did…”. Getting dressed up 5 days a week, with fancy jewellery a kid won’t pull on all day and HEELS. While I did get ready to feel like myself on maternity leave it was on a different level since I work in a corporate office.

3 – Seeing Avery’s smiling face after 9 hours of not seeing it. Yes, there is nothing better Smile

4 – Lunch. Everything about it. Lunch dates, not sharing my lunch with a tiny human, eating in quiet and not cleaning up a million pieces of food on the floor after.

5 – Adult conversation. I got out quite a bit on leave but there were days I had very little of this or at least not uninterrupted. I really missed this being at home all day.

Too often I feel like being a working Mom gets the short end of the stick. I get it, it is always easy to wish for what you do not have, after all the grass is always greener on the other side, right? Being a working Mom or a stay at home Mom both have challenges but both can be equally awesome. It all depends on the person and their situation.

Lindsey